Negotiating contracts
A contract means what it says, not what you’re told it means
When someone wants your signature, you’ll often hear reasons that have nothing to do with the words: the relationship, trust, a deadline, “it’s just standard”. But a contract is enforced on what it says, not on what anyone told you it means. Here’s why, and how to keep a clear head when insisting on the wording feels uncomfortable.
In short
People who want your signature often give reasons that sit outside the contract: the relationship, trust, a deadline, or an assurance that a clause doesn’t really mean what it says. But courts read a contract objectively, from its words, and many business contracts include an entire agreement clause saying that nothing outside the document is part of the deal. So treat what you’re told as a prompt to check the wording, never a substitute for it, and if a clause doesn’t mean what you were told, ask for words that do.
Why do people use emotional arguments to get a contract signed?
Because they work. When someone you like wants your signature, it’s easier to trust the person than to read the document, and nobody wants to seem difficult or distrustful. So the arguments for signing are rarely about what the contract says. They’re about the relationship, the deadline, or how reasonable you’re being.
It usually isn’t cynical. The person you’re dealing with often didn’t write the contract and may genuinely believe what they’re telling you. But the document was drafted to protect the side that wrote it, and if things go wrong, the document is what counts, not the conversation.
These are the lines you’re most likely to hear, and what stays true whichever one it is:
| What you might hear | What it asks of you | What stays true |
|---|---|---|
| “We’re partners. We’re on the same side.” | Trust the relationship instead of the text. | Contracts are written for the day a relationship goes wrong. If you’re aligned, writing it down costs nothing. |
| “It’s our standard contract. Everyone signs it.” | Treat it as a formality. | Standard terms usually favour the side that wrote them, and they bind you once you sign. Many are negotiated all the time. |
| “Don’t worry, we’d never use that clause.” | Rely on an intention, not the words. | Intentions change, and so do the people who hold them. If they’d never use it, taking it out costs nothing. |
| “That’s not what it means.” | Accept their reading over the words. | If it doesn’t mean that, the words can say what it does mean. |
| “We need it signed today.” | Decide before you’ve read it. | The deadline passes; the terms stay. |
| “Legal won’t let us change anything.” | Assume the terms are fixed. | Sometimes true. Then you’re deciding on the words exactly as they stand. |
| “Don’t you trust us?” | Feel that questions are an insult. | Asking what a clause means is ordinary business, not an accusation. |
| “The work’s already started. It’s just paperwork.” | Sign to keep things moving. | A late contract can still change the deal, even for work already done. |
Persuasion researchers such as Robert Cialdini, author of Influence, describe the levers behind lines like these: liking, authority, social proof, scarcity and the pull to stay consistent with what you’ve started. Naming the lever doesn’t make the feeling go away, but it makes it easier to notice.
How do courts decide what a contract means?
Courts decide what a contract means from its words, read objectively. The question isn’t what either side intended, believed or was told, but what the words would mean to a reasonable person who knew the background both parties knew when they made the contract.
In English law, courts start from the natural meaning of the words in the context of the whole contract, and they’re slow to depart from it just because a term has turned out badly for one side. As the Supreme Court put it in Arnold v Britton (2015), “the purpose of interpretation is to identify what the parties have agreed, not what the court thinks that they should have agreed.” What was said in negotiations generally can’t be used to interpret the written words (Chartbrook v Persimmon, 2009).
US courts start in the same place. Clear words are usually enforced by their plain meaning, and under the parol evidence rule, earlier or same-time agreements generally can’t be used to contradict a written contract the parties meant to be final. States differ on how readily they’ll look beyond the words to decide whether they’re unclear.
In civil-law countries such as France and Germany, courts look for the parties’ real common intention and can consider what was said and done around the contract. But they start from the words too: in France, a judge can’t reinterpret clear and precise terms, and in Germany, a signed contract is presumed to be complete and accurate, so whoever relies on something outside it has to prove it.
Whichever law applies, the wording is the starting point and usually the strongest evidence of what was agreed, and in both English and US law, signing generally binds you to it whether or not you read it. Anything outside the wording is, at best, something you’d have to prove in a dispute, against someone who may remember it differently. So treat what you’re told as a prompt to check the words, never as a substitute for them.
What an entire agreement clause does to what you were told
An entire agreement clause says the written contract is the whole deal and replaces everything said or agreed about its subject before it was signed. So a promise made in a meeting, on a call or in an email usually doesn’t become part of the contract, however sincerely it was meant. Many business contracts have one, often among the “boilerplate” near the end.
24.1 This Agreement constitutes the entire agreement between the parties and supersedes and extinguishes all previous agreements, promises, assurances, representations and understandings between them, whether written or oral, relating to its subject matter.
24.2 Each party acknowledges that in entering into this Agreement it does not rely on any statement, representation or assurance that is not set out in this Agreement.
Three things follow from a clause like this:
- It cuts both ways. It sets aside promises made by you as well as to you, and it can replace earlier agreements, including any on your own terms.
- It tells you what to rely on. If you’ve been told a clause means something narrower than it says, and the contract says nothing outside it counts, the words are what’s left.
- It doesn’t make everything safe to say. In English law, a clause excluding liability for misrepresentation only stands if it’s reasonable, under section 3 of the Misrepresentation Act 1967, and liability for fraud can’t be excluded at all. In the US, where these are called merger or integration clauses, whether one blocks a claim that you were misled depends on the state and the wording.
In English law, without such a clause, a clear promise made to persuade you to sign can occasionally be enforced as a separate “collateral” contract, but that’s uncertain, and the clause is designed to rule it out. Exceptions like these are a way back from a bad position, not a way to avoid one, and proving what was said takes time and money.
What if they say a clause doesn’t mean what it says?
Then ask for the words to be changed until they say what you’ve been told. If the explanation is true, writing it down costs the other side nothing. If they won’t, you know which version you’d be agreeing to: the words.
15.2 The Client may terminate this Agreement at any time and for any reason on seven (7) days’ written notice to the Supplier.
A few questions keep the conversation on the text, without making it personal:
- “Can you show me where the contract says that?”
- “If that’s what it means, could we add a sentence that says so?”
- “If you move on, how would the next person know what we agreed?”
A useful habit: when someone explains a clause, write their explanation down in one sentence. Then read the clause again on your own and ask whether its words actually say that. If they don’t, the gap between the two is what you’re being asked to take on trust.
Why “we’d never use that clause” isn’t something to rely on
Because it describes an intention, and intentions change; the clause doesn’t. The reassurance may be sincere today and still count for little when the person who gave it moves on, the business is sold, or a dispute starts and the lawyers work from the words.
The law reflects this. In English law, a statement of what someone intends to do is generally only a misrepresentation if they didn’t really intend it when they said it, and US law takes a similar approach, so a sincere reassurance that’s later forgotten may leave you with no claim at all. Many contracts also include a “no waiver” clause, which says that not using a right straight away doesn’t mean giving it up.
So if a clause really will never be used, it can come out. If they won’t take it out or narrow it, it’s fair to assume it might be used one day.
When the contract arrives after the work has started
A contract that arrives once work is under way deserves the same careful reading as one that arrives first, and it’s when the pressure to sign is strongest: your time is committed, the relationship feels settled, and pushing back can feel like risking the whole project.
But a new document can change the deal. It may say it applies from an earlier date, covering work you’ve already done, and an entire agreement clause may replace whatever you’d agreed before. Nor does starting work without a signed contract always mean there was no contract: depending on the facts, one can be formed by what the parties say and do. So read a late contract as a new negotiation, not as paperwork catching up.
How to read a contract as it’s drafted
Read it as a stranger would: someone who wasn’t in the room, doesn’t know anyone involved and has only the document and the facts in front of them. That’s close to how a judge or arbitrator would read it.
- Start with the definitions. Terms like “Deliverables” or “Losses” mean what their definitions say, which can be far more, or less, than the everyday word.
- Watch the small words. “Shall” and “must” are obligations; “may” is a choice. “Including” means the list isn’t complete. “Notwithstanding” overrides other clauses; “subject to” gives way to them. “At any time”, “for any reason” and “in its sole discretion” give the other side a very free hand.
- Ask what’s the most it allows. The most it would let the other side do, and the most it could cost you, on a bad day rather than a good one.
- Look for what isn’t there. No cap on your liability, or no right for you to end the contract, can matter as much as anything that’s written.
- Put it in your own words, then check. Write each important clause as one plain sentence. Where your sentence relies on something you were told rather than something written, you’ve found the gap.
- Read it away from the conversation. Somewhere quiet, with time, after the call rather than during it.
Don’t count on an unclear clause being read your way. Courts sometimes read a genuinely unclear term against the side that wrote it, but only as a last resort, and English courts give that rule a limited role in contracts between businesses. A clause that could be read two ways is worth clarifying before you sign.
How to keep emotion out of the decision
Decide what you need from the deal before the conversation starts, then judge the contract against that, not against how the conversation felt. Emotions aren’t the enemy: unease is often a sign that something deserves a closer look. The aim is to let the words, not the mood, decide.
- Be warm with the person and exact about the paper. In Getting to Yes, Roger Fisher and William Ury call this separating the people from the problem. When you disagree, point to the text: it’s the one thing both sides can see, and it’s what would be enforced.
- Know your walk-away point. Before you negotiate, write down what you must have, what you’d like, and what you’d do if there’s no deal, which Fisher and Ury call your BATNA: your best alternative to a negotiated agreement. It’s easier to decide calmly in advance than under pressure.
- Name the feeling. Guilt, flattery, tiredness or fear of losing the deal can each make a clause seem smaller than it is. Noticing which one it is makes it easier to set aside.
- Slow down when you’re rushed. Asking for time to read a contract and take advice is normal.
- If it matters, put it in the contract. Confirming a conversation by email is a good habit, but it usually won’t change what the contract says.
- Remember that pressure isn’t leverage. How confident the other side sounds says little about where you stand. That comes from the contract, the law and your alternatives.
- Get advice where the stakes are high. A lawyer reads the words without the relationship getting in the way. Here’s how to brief a lawyer on a contract.
When a dispute starts, go back to the words
When something goes wrong, start with what the contract says about the situation you’re in. Anger, a sense of betrayal and worry about legal costs are all natural, and all of them make it harder to see your position clearly.
- Find the clauses that apply, such as payment, termination, notices, liability and dispute resolution, and note any deadlines or formal steps, like notices that must be in writing.
- Keep it factual and in writing. What you write may later be read by the other side’s lawyers, or by a judge.
- Be careful with informal changes. Many contracts say changes must be in writing and signed by both parties, and in English law such clauses are generally effective (Rock Advertising v MWB, 2018), so a change agreed on a call may not count.
- Don’t mistake pressure for strength. Threats of legal action or legal costs aren’t the same as a strong case, and a company can appear to have much more leverage than it actually does.
- Take advice early, before positions harden, so you know where you really stand.
LegalSling itself began with a contract dispute, one that took its founder more than a year to resolve. In the founder’s words:
I learned the hard way that what matters is what a contract actually says, not what anyone tells you it means.
David, founder of LegalSling. Read the full story
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Questions people ask
Does a verbal promise override a written contract?
Generally not. Courts read a written contract by its words, and in English law what was said in negotiations generally can’t be used to interpret them. In the US, the parol evidence rule stops earlier or same-time agreements contradicting a written contract the parties meant to be final. An entire agreement clause usually stops spoken promises becoming part of the deal at all. There are narrow exceptions, for example if you were misled into signing, but they’re hard to prove.
What is an entire agreement clause?
It’s a clause saying that the written contract is the whole agreement between the parties, replacing everything said, promised or agreed about its subject before it was signed. It usually stops either side claiming that something said in negotiations was an extra term. In the US it’s often called a merger or integration clause. In English law it doesn’t, on its own, exclude liability for misrepresentation unless it clearly says so, and liability for fraud can’t be excluded.
Can I rely on the other side saying they’ll never use a clause?
It’s risky. A promise about what someone will do in future describes their intention at the time, and intentions change, as do the people who hold them and sometimes the owners of the business. The clause stays as written, many contracts say that not using a right doesn’t mean giving it up, and an entire agreement clause may shut the promise out. If a clause really won’t be used, removing or rewording it should cost the other side nothing.
Am I bound by a contract I signed without reading it?
Generally, yes. In both English and US law, signing a contract usually binds you to its terms whether or not you read them, and courts read those terms objectively rather than by what either side privately understood. There are exceptions, such as fraud or being misled about what a clause does, and consumers have protections that businesses usually don’t. But the exceptions are narrow, and relying on one means a dispute you’d have to win.
What if I was misled about what a contract means?
You may have a claim, and it’s worth taking a lawyer’s advice. In English law, a false statement of fact that led you to sign can be a misrepresentation, with remedies under the Misrepresentation Act 1967 that can include setting the contract aside or damages, and a court may not let a party rely on a clause whose effect it misrepresented. But you’d have to prove what was said and that it was untrue, and some contracts try to limit these claims.
Can a spoken agreement change a contract after it’s signed?
Sometimes, but it’s risky to rely on. Many contracts say changes must be in writing and signed by both parties, and in English law the Supreme Court held in Rock Advertising v MWB (2018) that such clauses are generally effective, so a change agreed only on a call or in a meeting may not count. In the US, the position varies. Either way, a change written down in the form the contract requires is far easier to prove.
Is it reasonable to ask for time before signing a contract?
Yes. Asking for time to read a contract, and to take advice on the parts that matter, is normal, and a counterparty that wants a lasting relationship will usually allow it. Some deadlines are real, but the terms usually last far longer than the deadline. If time is genuinely short, focus on the clauses that carry the most risk: payment, liability, ownership of the work and how either side can end the contract.
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